I don’t know about you, but for a long time when people would tell me ‘just be yourself’ I really struggled to understand what that meant. Who is Wendy? Am I not being myself currently? In fact one of my trauma responses resulted in blocking and repressing my entire childhood. I remember even telling my best friends (Abi & Musyoka) and therapist how I sometimes felt like a clone cause I had no idea who I was and I barely remembered my childhood. I adopted and absorbed people’