This blog post is quite different from the rest. It’s a journal entry & letter to myself and of course, anyone who resonates. Hi Wendy -past & present versions. I’m writing to us today because I feel like I need to let go and forgive us, forgive me for all the ways we’ve fallen short of who we are & want to be. Holding on to this guilt isn’t making me any better or proving how sorry I am. If anything, it’s limiting my growth. Holding on to the guilt is me choosing to define m

I believe many of us have heard all this talk about love languages and if you haven’t, let me explain in a nutshell. The five love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, physical touch & acts of service) developed by Gary Chapman are basically the different ways we express and receive love. We don’t all communicate love in the same way and in that same breath, we prefer to receive love in different ways. The conversation on love languages has been foc

I don’t know about you, but for a long time when people would tell me ‘just be yourself’ I really struggled to understand what that meant. Who is Wendy? Am I not being myself currently? In fact one of my trauma responses resulted in blocking and repressing my entire childhood. I remember even telling my best friends (Abi & Musyoka) and therapist how I sometimes felt like a clone cause I had no idea who I was and I barely remembered my childhood. I adopted and absorbed people’